ON INDIVIDUAL FULFILMENT

Can we achieve a worthy and fulfilling life? Yes, to some extent, but not by always following the path that common teaching has told us.

The key to a complete life is to open up to life, not hide or run from it. You should give voice to your imagination, innovations intellect and to have the chance to play, even if we are not wealthy enough to do all the things we wish could do. We need to have much confidence in our own power to achieve and to live daringly and openly. We need to be more critical and sceptical of “common taught thoughts” about “truth and good values”. We should use our own common sense based upon from our good reason and experiences. These are some of the ingredients that I have discovered contribute to the richness of an independent life. To follow your own path and to learn to accept your own life, should make you comfortable in your own mind. To chase and or to try and follow someone else’s path will only end up causing your ego great disappointments and leave you with many regrets. 

Everyday and each moment can be a great adventure. With so many good free things to do and enjoy in this world, life can be very interesting, exciting, and energising. The rewarding life is the goal we should chase, but you have to be happy to give up some things, meaning; to give up part of what it means to be socially humanised (made to fit the mold). 

If one has bad memories, one should try and understand why they are bad and learn from them, but this is a task that is very hard to do if others have been the one to give you such pain. In most cases we will not understand why one does a terrible thing to us. We need always to look ahead into the future while living day by day with these learnings. Life is full of open-ended possibilities and dead ends, but there are no maps offered to us to guide us through. We are not only what we are now, but also what we choose to become and do in the future. All this is what inspires me to keep on living. It’s the pain I am grasping onto that is making me a better being. Whether you will also find joy in this tough life of course is up to you, it’s simply there waiting for your action. The point is that it does not depend simply upon nature or society, destiny or wealth, but on what each person chooses to do with what they are given or what has been taken.

You have to ask yourself, what would I be doing if I had only a few years left before I die? The answer to this question whatever it maybe, would be what truly makes you happy, and it should be what you should be doing now or aspiring to do in the future.

“It’s not always possible to be physically where you want, but it’s always possible to be mentally there, this is why people daydream”

Older people who are not long from dying, but have had a life full of fulfilment and happiness are content that their time is up. They look back on their life knowing that they would not change much, even if they could go back in time. On the other hand, there are those grumpy old people sitting in the corner of the retirement home that sit all day long dwelling on the past, thinking of all the things they should have done and all the things they would change. I don’t want to be the second. I know that I may never have the wealth to do all the things that I want to do in my lifetime, but I have to come to the realisation that wealth alone does not make you happy, as no matter how wealthy you are or become, there will always be something better and bigger to buy and something more challenging to do that will be just out of your reach. 

We only make our own lives more complicated because of what society expects of us. You’ll always have that greedy wanting voice that lives in your head as this is instinct, you just need to learn how to manage the desires it seeks.